Some people very often suffer from stage fright. They are immobilized the moment their name is called out to go next. Some get tongue-tied and simply cannot help but babble. It is a problem, which has to be handled efficiently. The groom should work on this if he has had such experiences previously. Accepting it and confiding in someone close helps to handle the fear. The acquaintance can be a close friend or a speech therapist. There is no shame in admitting one’s weaknesses and working on it to improve. After all no one is born perfect!

Perfecting the speech needs time. Therefore, once the date is agreed upon there can be no procrastinating. Delaying things and postponing them does not help matters. It only makes it worse. The solution is to give the speech a few minutes everyday. Deciding upon the time helps but one can easily move it around to suit oneself as long as it is being done. Just repeating it once or even going over it in the head in the shower builds confidence. The important thing is doing it everyday. It just takes a few minutes and each day the groom can feel it getting better.

Once it has been memorized, the speaking skills need to be worked on. Emphasizing the right words to put the message across is vital. The meaning of a sentence can simply change by the use of this technique. The groom can easily play around with words and surely bring humor in by this method. Effective speaking is a skill that can be perfected with practice.

Nobody in our everyday live takes out the time to do this unless it is absolutely essential. Learning this skill before the wedding is to perfect your timing. Others might feel that you are wasting your time and energy on such a simple thing. Nevertheless, the wedding is not as important to them as it is for the groom. It is an art, which will prove helpful to the groom irrespective of time and place.

Once learnt no one can forget it. To some it comes naturally and to others it does not. The best thing under the latter situation is to simply take a few sessions. This boosts confidence and helps do away with a case of nerves. Identifying the area to be improved upon with time in hand does wonders. It simplifies the whole process and avoids unnecessary mounting of pressure at the last minute.

From the moment the bride agrees to the groom’s proposal of getting married, until the day it actually takes place, there is ample time to prepare a speech. However, it is not as easy as it sounds for many people, but you should not panic over this.

However, to make an impression it is helpful to note all the happy times you have spent together. There are some moments that hold a special place or are just wonderful memories. Sharing one’s experience is a special way of showing how much you care for her. It might be a simple thing or just the right moment when both of you realized that you were made for each other. However, sharing it again gives you a chance to relive the magic of the moment, and share it with people who mean a lot to you. Beginning the speech with these happy moments is bound to grab the attention of the audience.

Showing gratitude and thanking everybody present is important. In his speech, the groom should thank the guests and the others who have helped to make the wedding a success. A wedding needs a lot of planning and there are many people involved in it to make it a memorable event. Friends, family and close acquaintances often go out of their way to help in it. Thanking them all here is the responsibility of the groom.

A ‘special thanks’ has to be mentioned for the best man, the bridesmaids, his parents and parents-in-laws, and all the close friends. These special thanks ought to be mentioned for the guests present too, and you should thank them for taking out their precious time and attending the wedding. The bride and the groom might have common friends, so while thanking them the groom can ask the bride to join him in it. This saves her from mentioning all these people again.

Also, keep in mind that one cannot mention each person present at the wedding; otherwise you will have to provide sleeping accommodation for all! It is important not to miss out the special people however. Going over the speech with the best man is important too so that the errors can be altered, and can make sure the speech does not get repetitive too.

While each speech is unique in itself, no speech is complete without mentioning a few emotions. It adds warmth to the speech and makes it more real. Feelings of love, respect, loyalty, compatibility, adjustment and understanding can be mentioned in a subtle manner. It might be a little difficult to bring oneself to speak in front of so many about such feelings, but it is essential. These things need not be mentioned in a serious manner all the time. A dash of humor helps in handling such heavy-duty stuff.

Ok, we all know this one- Practice makes perfect. Surely, it holds true here also. Once the speech is written, well in advance preferably, it is important to practice it. One should be familiar with the lines, but not in a manner, that it does not look like it has been condemned to memory. The flow should be natural. Practicing the speech is an easy way of confirming this. The groom can also visualize himself attending his wedding along with his bride and everybody else while running the speech in his head. It is like playing a movie clip repeatedly where things go as per your needs. This exercise builds confidence.

The end of the speech can be a beautiful quote or a love poem. Thanking the bride here again is also important; it is because of her that you are here remembered.

It is important to keep the speech short and lively and precise. Propose a toast and just let the words flow. It then does become simple.