Posts Tagged ‘wedding speech’

How To Come Up With A Perfect Grooms Speech

Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010

Here are a few steps to help you write a perfect speech for your wedding. Afterall, who does not want to be remembered as a good speaker? By keeping this in mind this task can be as easy as buttering toast.

From the moment the bride agrees to the groom’s proposal of getting married, until the day it actually takes place, there is ample time to prepare a speech. However, it is not as easy as it sounds for many people, but you should not panic over this.

However, to make an impression it is helpful to note all the happy times you have spent together. There are some moments that hold a special place or are just wonderful memories. Sharing one’s experience is a special way of showing how much you care for her. It might be a simple thing or just the right moment when both of you realized that you were made for each other. However, sharing it again gives you a chance to relive the magic of the moment, and share it with people who mean a lot to you. Beginning the speech with these happy moments is bound to grab the attention of the audience.

Showing gratitude and thanking everybody present is important. In his speech, the groom should thank the guests and the others who have helped to make the wedding a success. A wedding needs a lot of planning and there are many people involved in it to make it a memorable event. Friends, family and close acquaintances often go out of their way to help in it. Thanking them all here is the responsibility of the groom.

A ‘special thanks’ has to be mentioned for the best man, the bridesmaids, his parents and parents-in-laws, and all the close friends. These special thanks ought to be mentioned for the guests present too, and you should thank them for taking out their precious time and attending the wedding. The bride and the groom might have common friends, so while thanking them the groom can ask the bride to join him in it. This saves her from mentioning all these people again.

Also, keep in mind that one cannot mention each person present at the wedding; otherwise you will have to provide sleeping accommodation for all! It is important not to miss out the special people however. Going over the speech with the best man is important too so that the errors can be altered, and can make sure the speech does not get repetitive too.

While each speech is unique in itself, no speech is complete without mentioning a few emotions. It adds warmth to the speech and makes it more real. Feelings of love, respect, loyalty, compatibility, adjustment and understanding can be mentioned in a subtle manner. It might be a little difficult to bring oneself to speak in front of so many about such feelings, but it is essential. These things need not be mentioned in a serious manner all the time. A dash of humor helps in handling such heavy-duty stuff.

Ok, we all know this one- Practice makes perfect. Surely, it holds true here also. Once the speech is written, well in advance preferably, it is important to practice it. One should be familiar with the lines, but not in a manner, that it does not look like it has been condemned to memory. The flow should be natural. Practicing the speech is an easy way of confirming this. The groom can also visualize himself attending his wedding along with his bride and everybody else while running the speech in his head. It is like playing a movie clip repeatedly where things go as per your needs. This exercise builds confidence.

The end of the speech can be a beautiful quote or a love poem. Thanking the bride here again is also important; it is because of her that you are here remembered.

It is important to keep the speech short and lively and precise. Propose a toast and just let the words flow. It then does become simple.

Funny Wedding Toasts and Speeches If You Are Not a Comedian

Thursday, November 12th, 2009

Funny wedding toasts can transform a speech. There is nothing worse than humorless wedding toasts or speeches. I know this because I have given them and listened to them! If we want to be able to give funny wedding toasts we need to have the confidence, understand the audience and prepare thoroughly.

Not everyone is born to be a stand up comedian. Very few people are able to stand up like Billy Connelly and give an hilarious stream of consciousness monologue to keep a crowd of 200 wedding guests entertained. In fact, to paraphrase Jerry Seinfeld, most people put a fear of public speaking above fear of death, so they would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy!

So given the fact that at some point in our lives we will be called upon to give a wedding toast or wedding speech, how can we avoid the gut wrenching anxiety during dinner before the speech and most importantly when the time comes, deliver a funny and sparkling toast or speech that will be remembered for ever?

The easiest way is to get a book with lots of ideas for funny wedding toasts such as funny groom toasts or best man speech toasts. You can find quite a lot of these types of books at your local bookstore but they can be quite expensive and may not be dedicated to the type of speech you are going to give. I gave up looking for offline books after not really being able to find something funny enough for the occasion (the guys getting married, Tom (my cousin) and Sarah are a real pair of jokers so they were expecting something pretty good from my speech) and I eventually started looking online.

At first I thought I would try and get something for nothing and I looked for free wedding toasts. There are a few around but honestly they are extremely lame and pretty much unusable. It’s only when I was prepared to pay a little that the content started to get exponentially better.

In the end I found an online book with exactly the right sort of funny wedding toasts I needed for my speech. I downloaded it straight away and was able in minutes to use several of the speeches in the book to tailor my own speech to Tom and Sarah. This preparation gave the confidence I needed so I was relaxed all day leading up to the speech and in the end, after my final toast, everyone was on their feet. It was quite something. The turn around from my previous efforts was unbelievable and I no longer have that pre-speech dread and now actually look forward to giving speeches!